Practical Tips to Improve Communication with your Co-Parent

Co-parenting can often feel emotionally draining, particularly following the breakdown of a relationship or marriage.

However, by implementing appropriate communication techniques, it is possible to cultivate a positive and amicable co-parenting relationship that will benefit everyone involved, where it is safe to do so.

Create a Parenting Agreement to Set Clear Expectations

By creating a detailed document that outlines the custody arrangements for your child, you create a ‘rule book’ that can be referred back to during the difficult times.

It will also assist both you and your former partner with future organising and scheduling, without needing to consult each other on each and every occasion.

Your Orders or Parenting Plan should outline communication protocols, time-planning for special occasions and restraints, so that all parties are on the same page with their expectations.

As experienced Family Solicitors, we can assist you in creating Orders or a Parenting Plan that achieves your goals and addresses your concerns. We can draft comprehensive documents that are in ‘plain English’ and without the confusing legal jargon, whilst still being legally binding.

Minimise Conflict in Co-Parenting Through Effective Communication

It is easy to lose sight of what your child needs when you are embroiled in the emotion of a separation, particularly if you are dealing with someone who is difficult to co-parent with. At times like this, ask yourself – what is my child’s favourite thing to do with their other parent? What would my child feel or think if they could no longer do that thing with their other parent?

It is important to ensure your child is insulated from any parental conflict between you and the other parent. Exposure to parental conflict can cause children to feel anxious, stressed and as though they must choose sides.

It is important to foster an environment that encourages a positive relationship with both parents and nurtures the connection with both parents.

Use Co-Parenting Apps and Tools to Reduce Miscommunication

It is important to have effective channels for communication and respectful dialogue.

You may wish to consider utilising a co-parenting application, such as SharedCare, Skoolbag or Parentship. These applications allow you to create a shared calendar or schedule, or share documents, without having to directly communicate with your former partner. You may also wish to use a parenting communication application such as Our Family Wizard, instead of text message or email.

It may be helpful to minimise the face-to-face contact or interactions that you have with your former partner, especially in the early stages of separation. This could include organising for changeovers to occur before or after school or another location where you do not both need to be there at the same time.

Develop Effective Communication Skills for Successful Co-Parenting

Successful co-parenting starts with clear and respectful communication. When discussing concerns, focus on expressing your own perspective while acknowledging that your co-parent may see things differently.

Keep the conversation open and solution-focused, with a willingness to compromise. Being flexible and considering new approaches can make problem-solving easier. Even if you don’t agree, show your co-parent that you’ve listened and understood their point of view.

Remember, a “good enough” solution that both parents can work with is far better than a “perfect” solution that only one parent supports. The goal is to create a cooperative environment that benefits your child.